It's no way to spend your youth. Sexuality is at the core of who you are. You can be a top and a bottom, both in sex and money, honey. But girls are an entirely different kind of animal. This is not a time in your life to be smug. Maybe it was my aloofness that drew in the dudes straight girls take note , but damn, dudes were easy like ~Sunday morning~. I made a huge ass hat out of myself.
And if you can't find a lesbian mentor, don't worry. I know, I know my outfit is slutty. Over the time it has been ranked as high as 19 955 099 in the world. There's something out there for everyone, trust me. It can feel wildly intimidating to be a little, vulnerable kitten tossed into a teeming cesspool of seasoned dykes.
We don't need to make it even harder on the young bloods by keeping our world so secretive. I always talk to the girl by herself. You can be a fully femme lipstick lez and also enjoy taking a girl out for a night on the town. According to Siteadvisor and Google safe browsing analytics, Lesbian-dating. Being true to yourself gets you tapped into your instincts on a whole other level. It's hard out there for a new lez. If you like that look, wear all the blazers your heart desires.
The average woman isn't going to ghost you because you slept with her on the first date. No one is going to know you're gay just by looking at you everyone rocks short hair and flannel these days , so make sure everywhere you go, you slip in your sexual identity. If she's a cold bitch to you, well, shame on her. Women are drawn to authenticity. And don't stress about it too much. If you're racked with fear about the whole bill thing, I have a simple solution: Offer to pay the bill. Everything I learned about girl-on-girl dating was through trial and error.
Straight girls get treated all the time. Seek out another, nicer lesbian mentor. However, if the girl you're on a date with is vehement about paying the bill, let her pay, babes. Or you can be the bitch that pays. One of the best parts about the girl-on-girl dynamic is that there isn't really any slut-shaming as far as my experience goes in our culture. . If you don't have a lesbian bar in your town, get online and research a lesbian night somewhere in the surrounding area.
I will never forget how terrified I was when I first realized I wanted to exclusively swim in the girl pond. At the end of the day, we are a community. Send her my way, and I will set that mean lesbian straight. Annoying, I know, but girl, I had to do it, too. Karma will surely bite her in the ass, and she will die, sexless and surrounded by aging cats. Is your cool older brother friends with a cool older lesbian? One of the best parts about your new gay life is now that you're finally out of that repressive closet and are , a whole new world inside of you will come to life. I exerted zero effort into attracting boy creatures, but I learned quickly that I didn't really need to.
Lesbians are usually nice and friendly to fresh meat and are more than happy to welcome you into the fold a little too happy sometimes. Unless you want to be thrown into a haphazard mix of other lesbian newbies at a bi-monthly girl party at a massive nightclub, you have to know people to find out where the experienced lesbians gather. I'm clearly not one of those lesbians. Women aren't a simple stroll in the park; women are an uphill climb in dangerous weather conditions. Some lesbians liked to be tight-lipped no pun intended about the gay underworld. Remember, the homo bar is your territory, and you should feel empowered on your turf. Or I just sat back and watched my straight girlfriends make out with fratty-looking boys, and I would just grow increasingly bitter and irritated and end up overdrinking and waking up depressed and hopeless and hungover.
Also, other gays, gays at the office, gays in the family, gays at the gym, gays everywhere will come flying out of the woodwork. We're perpetually thirsty for fresh gay blood, so being new on the scene actually works in your favor. If you're comfortable, and the chemistry is there, and you're feeling the heat -- go for it, sister. All you have to do is bat a lash, act entirely disinterested, cold and bitchy, and boys will fall at your feet. My number one tip in meeting like-minded girls is to seek out another lesbian to be your wingwoman.
Like I said, lesbians are elusive and hard to seek out, especially if you live in a small town. Coming out is like opening up Pandora's box. Lucky for you, I've made every rookie mistake in the book, and I'm here today to share my wealth of screw-ups. And lesbians are so incestuous that we've all dated each other by now. Who doesn't love a mystery woman who is sitting solo at the girl bar? We don't like things that are too easily available, and the dating scene is no different.
Don't feel guilty because it's a girl. It's safe to assume the people at the gay bar are gay. When you celebrate the core of who you are, all the formerly displaced pieces will fall into place. If you're comfortable in jeans and a button-down, rock it, girl. That's when I started matching with the girls I liked. And I don't know about you, but I crave r-o-m-a-n-c-e. Let's brainstorm: Is there a lesbian at work who you've never spoken to before? I had experience with , but boys were easy.